Why do we fall out of love?

I hope I could help you or at least make you understand something. And even if I fail at both my objectives of writing this answer, I would hope that you must have felt a little better after reading.

Let us look into some solutions that are mentioned on the internet, ‘tried and tested’

1. Venting Out: You were in a bond, definitely would have known each other’s weakness and dark sides. She would have made some mistakes, would have hurted you sometimes. You could vent out for hours, for days. But this is not gonna help. You will feel bad afterwards. Because sure she hurted you, but she also made you go head over heels. DON’T DO THIS.
2. Out of Sight Out of mind: You need to delete all her photos, voicemail, screenshots, whatsapp chats, all her contact numbers, saved videos, facebook messages, etc. You need to block her on Quora, facebook, instagram, whatsapp, and, if possible, even on linkedin. You know what would be a better option, remove your profile from these social networks. They are supposed to make our life easy but they are doing only the opposite. Go ahead and burn her cards and gifts and whatever thing that you own that is related to her. And if they are inflammable, throw them away or give them to someone else. By doing this, for the next few moths you will feel a bit of relief, as if you are finally seperating your life from hers. This is a good start for sure. But do this only if she is so terrible and actually deserve this. Because you might regret it later. If not, keep the things you are supposed to keep. And you know this better than me. But keep them in hiding. Don’t look at them, else you will be screwed.
3. Join Gym: You know this is actually helpful. You work/study in the day and by evening you have to rush to the gym. You do 100 push ups( may be more for men), 100 squats, 50 bicep curls, 100 lunges and so on so forth. By the time you are finished with your dinner, you won’t have any energy left to think, you will slip into sleep. Mind you, this only helps if you are actually doing some regular strength training, otherwise it also won’t help. The idea is to make yourself as tired as possible. And this is gonna take guts buddy.
4. Talk to other boys/girls: If you are generally interested in talking, and are bit of an extrovert, this might scatter your attention and help you to some extent. But this really is not of much help. If you are an introvert, DO NOT DO THIS. Writing on behalf of introverts, this would be the death of you. You won’t be yourself. This is the time you actually need to end connections, if you are like my breed, you may need to stop talking to anyone on this planet for 3–4 months. Because every single person is gonna remind you of her in some way or the other.
5. Rebound Relationship: I hope you are not that stupid.

You know I can add 5–10 more points to this list and can babble about what helps and what not. But I don’t want to do that. You know what, people just want a remedy. But does everything in this world has a remedy? In fact, are you sure you can ‘fall out of love’?

Imagine a situation. It has been 5–6 years and you still think about her. 10 more years fled, and you still remember that smile. Will that memory hurt you? Will you still feel an urge to talk to her again?

Nobody knows. You think people here know how to make you move on? They may tell you their story, how they did it. But there is no guarantee.

You are actually helpless. Neither Quora nor Google can help you. You just have to give it time. How much? Again, no one knows.

Just be there, hold on to whatever you got. And most important, prepare yourself to have the courage to live blissfully even if everything you have ever loved is taken away from you.

Wish you all the luck in the world!!