The thing that makes a man decide to marry

Age - Sometimes men put off marriage for when they are older. They reserve their younger years for building their career and financial status so that they are in a better place to provide for another person.

He Knows What He Wants - This can be related to age but it’s not always the case. Typically a man knows what he wants when he’s had enough dating experiences that allow him to know exactly what he’s looking for in a woman. This can include personality traits, appearance, and personal values.

He Isn’t Curious - This is true for both men and women and varies depending on the person. A lot of men decide to marry when they don’t feel a need to chase anymore women. They don’t care what else is out there. Sometimes this comes after they’ve had enough dating experiences and sometimes it comes after simply meeting the right person.

He Trusts Her - There is a stereotype that women are the only ones that deal with trust issues but that certainly isn’t the case. Men have trust issues too. Before getting married a man wants to know that he can trust his woman with his heart, finances, and as a future mother.

He Isn’t Scared - Marriage is a big deal. It’s committing the rest of your life to someone and you should only plan to get married once. Sometimes this can intimidate men but a man who is ready to get married has gotten over this fear.

He Is Pro Marriage - This can also be related to my previous point on trust issues. There is a chance that the man doesn’t believe in marriage because he hasn’t seen one that’s been successful. It can be very difficult for a man to take his relationship with his woman to the next level if he doesn’t believe in it.

She Isn’t Bound By Societal Norms - I think a lot of men want a woman who will allow them to be vulnerable without them feeling like they are any less “manly”. Societal pressures make it hard for men to express their emotions because being emotional is seen as a feminine trait. The truth is, both men and women have emotions and men want freedom to express them!

She Supports His Hustle - One thing I know a lot of men value is a woman who supports his dreams and ambitions. She takes time to let him know that she is proud of him. A lot of guys out there work incredibly hard and nothing feels better than having your woman let you know that she recognizes that.

What does falling in love feel like?

You can't get him out of your mind doesn't matter how much you try. Suddenly, he is everywhere. Even when he isn't there. It's maddening. The five year perfect plan that only involved you and a happy bachelor life? Forget it. He is all over it.

Worse, his lastname seems to be swallowing yours every time you get hold of a pen and paper. And what's up with the hearts?

Day dreams are freaking nightmare. You didn't even want kids! Now they have names and his eyes.

And if he isn't there for long periods of times you go nuts with your clothes on. Yeah. That's how nuts. You become dramatic and let out your frustration all sorts of wrong ways.

If he is there most of the times, then everything that happens you want to show him. You giggle together. Everything is funny. You better start applying anti-wrinkle cream or so much giggling will wrinkle your skin.

You have to come up with a nickname, then. Your heart won't have it any other way. Suddenly it decided clichés are adorable.

Some words and sentences, spoken or written, will start to wake the hoard of butterflies in your stomach. When did they move in? Why no one informed you? Are they planning on growing any bigger? Because that's a problem.

Your senses are through the roof. You can hear his car from another city. His smell is easy to pick up on a busy train station. You can recognize his form anywhere. It's like a mental image you can no longer get rid of.

Your heart thinks its a bird in golden cage. Every time he is near, it starts banging against the cage. Don't get me started on whistling and twirling. Ugh.

Worst of all? You are more d̶e̶l̶u̶s̶i̶o̶n̶a̶l̶ deliriously happy than you will ever be in your life.

Why do we fall out of love?

I hope I could help you or at least make you understand something. And even if I fail at both my objectives of writing this answer, I would hope that you must have felt a little better after reading.

Let us look into some solutions that are mentioned on the internet, ‘tried and tested’

1. Venting Out: You were in a bond, definitely would have known each other’s weakness and dark sides. She would have made some mistakes, would have hurted you sometimes. You could vent out for hours, for days. But this is not gonna help. You will feel bad afterwards. Because sure she hurted you, but she also made you go head over heels. DON’T DO THIS.
2. Out of Sight Out of mind: You need to delete all her photos, voicemail, screenshots, whatsapp chats, all her contact numbers, saved videos, facebook messages, etc. You need to block her on Quora, facebook, instagram, whatsapp, and, if possible, even on linkedin. You know what would be a better option, remove your profile from these social networks. They are supposed to make our life easy but they are doing only the opposite. Go ahead and burn her cards and gifts and whatever thing that you own that is related to her. And if they are inflammable, throw them away or give them to someone else. By doing this, for the next few moths you will feel a bit of relief, as if you are finally seperating your life from hers. This is a good start for sure. But do this only if she is so terrible and actually deserve this. Because you might regret it later. If not, keep the things you are supposed to keep. And you know this better than me. But keep them in hiding. Don’t look at them, else you will be screwed.
3. Join Gym: You know this is actually helpful. You work/study in the day and by evening you have to rush to the gym. You do 100 push ups( may be more for men), 100 squats, 50 bicep curls, 100 lunges and so on so forth. By the time you are finished with your dinner, you won’t have any energy left to think, you will slip into sleep. Mind you, this only helps if you are actually doing some regular strength training, otherwise it also won’t help. The idea is to make yourself as tired as possible. And this is gonna take guts buddy.
4. Talk to other boys/girls: If you are generally interested in talking, and are bit of an extrovert, this might scatter your attention and help you to some extent. But this really is not of much help. If you are an introvert, DO NOT DO THIS. Writing on behalf of introverts, this would be the death of you. You won’t be yourself. This is the time you actually need to end connections, if you are like my breed, you may need to stop talking to anyone on this planet for 3–4 months. Because every single person is gonna remind you of her in some way or the other.
5. Rebound Relationship: I hope you are not that stupid.

You know I can add 5–10 more points to this list and can babble about what helps and what not. But I don’t want to do that. You know what, people just want a remedy. But does everything in this world has a remedy? In fact, are you sure you can ‘fall out of love’?

Imagine a situation. It has been 5–6 years and you still think about her. 10 more years fled, and you still remember that smile. Will that memory hurt you? Will you still feel an urge to talk to her again?

Nobody knows. You think people here know how to make you move on? They may tell you their story, how they did it. But there is no guarantee.

You are actually helpless. Neither Quora nor Google can help you. You just have to give it time. How much? Again, no one knows.

Just be there, hold on to whatever you got. And most important, prepare yourself to have the courage to live blissfully even if everything you have ever loved is taken away from you.

Wish you all the luck in the world!!